Since Freud, we know that every dream is a mine of information about our deepest desires. Hence our frustration when we do not remember it. Why are so many dreamers struck with amnesia when they wake up? And how to find this memory?
The majority dreams every night
"My friends often tell their dreams, says Magali, 29. I do not remember anything, or almost nothing, no image, no interesting impression. It's a shame: I would so much like to keep them in mind to decode them. " According to the psychoanalyst Nicole Fabre, this disappointment, very frequent, is due to the fact that to forget her dreams engenders "the feeling of missing a key element to understand herself", but also to lack of creativity, of inner richness, of curiosity ".
In some cases, this lack of memory can be explained by a lack of dreams: "Neurological alterations due to illness, accident or trauma can lead to their disappearance, explains Michel Billiard, neurologist and sleep specialist. A psychological condition that causes great difficulty in expressing your emotion, or linking more frequent but very short episodes of REM sleep may have the same result. " But these situations are rare, and the vast majority of us dream every night.
A lack of attention
For the neurologist, our amnesia is mainly due to our lack of interest in the dream world: "Lack of attention and concentration, dreams escape, and so does even for all mental activities. " On the other hand, since we are interested in our thoughts and our inner world, our memory is more alert. Michel Billiard found that "women, who tend to be more introspective than men, are more attentive to their dreams and thus better able to stand up for themselves." Similarly, for those who engage in self-help work ".
The lack of interest in one's dreams can also be linked to a lack of interest in the dream itself. "Twice in three, our dreams are made up of ordinary events that took place the day before, since- in our sleep, we prolong our activities or our experiences of the day in order to "settle" them, "says Michel Billiard. Because they are of no major importance, we forget these facts so as not to clutter our memory.
"There are in each of us [...] desires terrible, wild, disordered, and this is highlighted by the dreams." These words are not from Freud, but from Plato ( The Republic - LGF)! If the idea comes from antiquity, it is the father of psychoanalysis who made it popular, thus giving another explanation to our gaps: "In sleep, our unconscious expresses what we do not know or what we dare not say: our desires, our troubles, our anxieties ... ", Nicole Fabre emphasizes.
Why do not we receive these messages that he sends us? "Because we repress them, says the psychoanalyst.The dream camouflages the information he carries in him behind ordinary or, on the contrary, extraordinary images, in order to protect us from the crudity of our impulses, but if our need for control takes over, then we unwittingly refuse to let ourselves be surprised by these revelations that could frighten us. "