A question came to me last week. It's an anonymous question from someone who wanted to know "how to punish a woman who does not respect her husband? In other words, I paraphrase: my wife does not respect me ... how to make him pay?
I already see the women boiling ... 🙂 But let's calm down and think about it a bit ... Okay? 🙂 🙂
Formulated as follows (how to punish a woman who does not respect her husband ...) it's a little shocking, but I take the risk to raise this subject and answer it in public on my blog, because this man said aloud what many think in a low voice ... what some men often meditate on ... which motivates the acts that some men pose.
The fact is that in many marriages today, there is a cruel lack oflove and of respect - major needs of each of us - which takes many couples in a vicious circle of misunderstanding, arguments, anger, resentment, bitterness ... etc.
Before going further and answering the question of this man, I make a short parenthesis to tell us women, Christians, that God commands us to respect our men. This respect must have neither reason nor condition. It is a respect that God commands us to give to our husbands unconditionally.
Besides, let each one of you love his wife like himself, and let the wife respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)
I encourage you to read this article if you are wondering what men find disrespectful to their wives.
I close my parenthesis and answer the man's question.
Brother, you're asking yourself the wrong question. And this question highlights a suffering, certainly, but also reveals bad motives, bad desires. It reveals anger, resentment, even sourness or bitterness. It highlights a desire to take revenge. And to approach things this way will only worsen the situation and will certainly lead to division.
Husbands, love your wives, and do not be bitter against them. (Colossians 3:19)
For all those who have difficulties in this area and struggle with lack of forgiveness, bitterness or bitterness towards their spouse, I encourage you to listen to this video. It will help you a lot.
The question you should really ask yourself is this: how can I be respected by my wife? or what are the ways that I can use to make my wife respect me? or how to make my wife respect me? or how to win the respect of my wife?
Here are my tips:
Become an imitator of Christ.
A man is esteemed because of his intelligence, and he who has a perverse heart is the object of contempt. (Proverbs 12: 8)
This intelligence, this good sense, is acquired by seeking God. Seeking to imitate Christ will inspire you to love your wife, to be true to her, to seek her good, to protect her ... in short, to meet her most important needs. Seeking to imitate Christ will push you to walk in thelove, theintegrity, the truth, the loyalty and the service... to give a vision, a direction to your family, to be responsible... so many things that command respect and admiration.
Some men are so vicious, low in their attitudes that they must pray and fast in order to respect them. But it's so much easier to respect a responsible man, a true leader according to the heart of God. Brother God calls you to be the leader in your house and your wife is waiting to see this leader get up!
Teach yourself to respect it. Be a model!
Man must not cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God, while woman is the glory of man. (1 Corinthians 11: 7)
The woman is the glory of man tells us this verse. Brother, in fact, your wife is like a mirror ... What she sends back to you is very often the reflection of yourself. If your wife does not respect you, then it is quite possible that it is the fruit of seeds that you have deposited in her: these scornful, devaluing words that you often tell her; this lack of interest in her (she speaks, you do not listen ... you do not have time for her ... you do not get interested in her in a general way ... you turn what she said mockingly ... you do not pay attention to her suggestions ... you do not bother to consult her before making an important decision ...)
Make no mistake: we do not make fun of God. What a man has sown, he will also reap. (Galatians 6: 7)
Beloved, be a model. Be a leader by showing him the way. Be an example. Honor her in public as well as privately. Respect her ... Some men treat their wives as no-goers and hope to be treated like royalty ... Uh ... it's complicated.The woman often functions as an incubator, she will always give you back what you sowed in her, bigger, bigger. Beloved, it is a powerful advice that I give you. Seem / invest in it what you wish to receive from it.
Sers. Make yourself useful.
But whoever wants to be great among you, let him be your servant. (Matthew 20: 26)
Respect is not earned by raising the tone, shouting, blowing, or treating the silence ... Brother, violence will cause your wife to be afraid of you (unhealthily) but deep inside her heart, she will despise you because of your inability to control you.
Respect is also acquired through service. Today, the Church (who is the Bride of Christ) does Him honor, praise, and glory ... not because Christ forced her (though He has all the power to do it). We honor and bless Jesus Christ because of all that He did for us because of His love and service ... because He gave His life for us!
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church, and gave himself up for her, (Ephesians 5:25)
Brother descends from your pedestal, and following the example of Christ (John 13: 1-5), takes the towel and washes his feet. Sers. Carry the burdens. The true leader is the one who serves. And your wife will honor you more if you serve, rather than constantly say, like the leech, "give, give!" (Proverbs 30:15) Invest in your wife. Bring out the best of her.
Work on your character, because character attracts loyalty and respect.
This is a bit like the first point. Brother, do you have any character? What distinguishes you? How often do you change? Who are you ? Are you someone consistent?
Every leader must have character. Why ? Because people will not follow you if they do not make you trust. But it is difficult to trust someone who changes constantly, in a totally unpredictable way. It is difficult to trust someone who says things but does not think them, who promises, but does not keep his promises, whose actions are the opposite of his words. The true leader influences by his character.
In summary, to make yourself respected by your wife, love her. Love it as Christ loved the Church. Be the leader that God wants you to be in your home.
Love is patient, it is full of kindness, love. He is not envious, he does not try to make himself known, he does not sweat with pride. He does not do anything unseemly. He does not seek his own interest, he does not become bitter against others, he does not frame evil. Injustice saddens him, the truth rejoices him. On every occasion, he forgives, he trusts, he hopes, he perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13: 4-7)
I wish a good start of week to all and to Wednesday for another enriching article on the theme of respect in marriage!
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