His duties turn into a nightmare

Every night, it's the same scenario: your child hangs out to get to work, gets discouraged at the first stumbling block, the atmosphere becomes electric and, tired by your day, you drop a few comments, soon regretted. How to go about doing homework does not turn into conflict?

Anne Lanchon

Establish a Ritual

"Children ask for a setting, says Brigitte Prot, but they also need to relax after school, to calm down and make themselves more available After a break of about three quarters of an hour, I advise parents to allocate a limited time allowance every day - for example, from 6 pm to 6:30 pm - and proportional to the amount Of course, this frame prevents the child from getting too late, at a time when he is less efficient, it promotes concentration and teaches him to manage his time.Set a ritual secures the child and trivializes the status of homework, which is part of the schedule of the day, and neuroscience also shows that the brain anticipates the performance of a regular task and is therefore more efficient. "

Relativize the challenge

Homework crystallizes many issues that, nt, exceed them. They send back the parents to their schooling, happy or unhappy, to their guilt of being little present, to their concern for the future of their child. Which explains, without a doubt, that they give them so much importance. However, "doing homework in a tense atmosphere is a source of demotivation and sometimes school anxiety," says the psychopedagogist. And if you put a little perspective on the issue? After all, homework is just a learning and learning process. Free from all pressure, your child will learn more peacefully. Unless his difficulties are elsewhere. If he has trouble understanding, concentrating, an appointment with his teacher is needed, and possibly with a psychologist, to ensure that he does not suffer from attention disorders. With the Internet, students are less interested in learning. "The challenge for adults is to convince them that their knowledge enriches them and makes them actors in their lives," says Brigitte Prot. For this, we must put them in a position to live them, and ask them: "What does it change for you, to be able to count head, without calculator?"

Stay back

L to help organize his work, to check that he understands, it is important. But you are not a bis teacher. So, avoid giving extra exercises ... or doing them in its place!If not, how will it progress and become autonomous? The ideal would be to intervene only if he wishes. If you are not available, you can call a student or retiree. A costly solution, but in the absence of an emotional issue, reduces the risk of conflict.


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